Back in October I went on a date with this guy I met via Match.com. He was nice enough to go on a second, third and fourth date but he didn’t thrill me. To be honest, his personality was kinda blah but I could tell he was a good guy so why not?
A few weeks had gone by and he went quiet. I didn’t really think anything of it because he was kinda boring and I found myself doing a lot of the talking. Out of the blue last week he texted me saying he didn’t forget about me but he was going through some things and would like to sit down and talk when he was free. Ok, no big deal.
This past Sunday we met up and he started to tell me about some personal issues he was having and then said he thinks we want different things. We never had “the talk” about what we want because we were just DATING but, ok. Again, no loss for me.
But then he proceeds to tell me he felt I was more like his little sister. WHAAATTTT!?!?! Keep in mind we went out like four or five times and we kissed each time. Really? Your sister? You just lost me “bro”. On top of that he started giving me a pep talk that went something like this: Don’t worry you’ll meet someone when you stop looking. You’re smart, you’re pretty, you’re easy to talk to…
While I give him a lot of credit for taking the time to meet with me and tell me what’s up (because most guys have just gone cold) sometimes the truth is just weird. Thanks for letting me down easy but I’m not attached to you or upset in the least. Sheesh!
You have read my ups and downs of online dating. I talk to my friends about my experiences and laugh but seriously, online dating sucks. I email and do the stupid wink and I get nothing in return. Match.com even has the Stir events for people to meet in person instead of wasting time online. I love this idea but the closest events are in NYC or Hoboken. I’d like to meet a handsome fella in my backyard!
With that said, my friend and I have started a new dating venture called The Dating Lounge. We are putting together events in the Monmouth and Ocean Counties in NJ for singles in their 30s and 40s. We want a pressure free environment for our singles to have fun, meet great people and hopefully find their match.
For updates you can join the group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedatingloungenj/) and follow us on Twitter @DatingLoungeNJ.